Love Means Saying You're Sorry

This month's insights on Adult ADHD and relationships come from psychologist Ari Tuckman, with two excerpts from his book More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD. Enjoy, and please join in with your comments on these topics!  -- Gina Pera


By Ari  Tuckman, Ph.D.



It's been said that if one person in a relationship has ADHD, then the other person kind of has

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Q & A on Adult ADHD: What Is Personality, What Are Symptoms?

Continuing with last month's theme of sharing questions and answers from my Ask the Expert chat, here is a two-part question from a reader named Matt. I welcome your responses to both Matt's questions and my answers. -- Gina Pera



1. How do you separate ADHD from the person? Because it is neurological, it just doesn't seem possible. It would be like separating sexual orientation from a person.

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Adult ADHD Question-and-Answer: on ADHD and "Denial"

A few years ago, I participated in an Ask the Expert Chat on "ADHD and Relationships", sponsored by the National Resource Center on ADHD. In this free forum, the public is invited to ask questions of a top ADHD expert in a live online chat. This text-based Q&A is later stored in the CHADD Ask the Expert archive (you can view the topics at that link but access is limited to CHADD members). Among

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ADHD and Your Money

My husband and I are now on the same track when it comes to money, but it wasn't always thus.  Conflicting attitudes and goals were a constant source of stress and acrimony.



The best I can describe it is that before my husband's ADHD diagnosis and medical treatment, money was more of an abstraction to him rather than a reality.  He would say that he didn't care about money, but the

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Adult ADHD and "Time Blindness": Dr. Russell Barkley's Tactics for Taming That Trickster, Time

Time.  That's one word that always makes the top of the list when
I ask adults in our local CHADD discussion group to name their top ADHD-related
challenges.




Keeping
track of time.
Estimating
the time it will take to complete a project.
Planning
for future time instead of getting totally wrapped up in present time.


Managing time is a constant challenge for most humans, especially in

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The "Invisible Ropes" of Adult ADHD, And How A Special Type of Therapy Can Help Set You Free

Introduction:  When I'm asked about the best kind of therapy for Adult ADHD, I explain that the research thus far points to cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), in combination with medication.  Then I emphasize a critical point: not just any CBT but that with a special focus on ADHD. 

      Standard CBT that does not acknowledge the neurobiological role of ADHD can be

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John and Abby: Solving the "Problem with No Name"

This July 4, my husband and I celebrated our 12th anniversary.  Compared to couples married 30, 40 or even the 50 years of my parents' marriage, 12 years is hardly remarkable unless you figure in unrecognized ADHD.


     As I joked to my friends on Facebook: "We can credit the fact that we're still married—and happily so—to equal parts brutal honesty, teeth-gnashing, affection, shared

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